When you stumble upon an idea that just feels right to your core, it starts appearing everywhere you look. That’s how you know you are on the right track.
I now understand we humans need to be a part of tribes – it’s how we survive and thrive.
Eloquent confirmation: Blue Zones (The Power #9) — Dan Beuttner attributes health and longevity to tribes. Journalist Johann Hari (Humans need a tribe) attributes the increase in addiction and loneliness to the disappearance of tribes.
I now get why it is so important to join others along the path of sobriety. It’s a key part of how we not only get, but keep sober. We’re collaborative creatures – and we also take our cues from our tribes. I recall how my mother used to say ‘birds of a feather flock together’. You want to pick your tribes wisely. Your tribes should be a good influence, a loving influence – and a happy, encouraging influence.
Online sobriety tribes
While nothing will ever beats in-person tribes (and you must have in-person tribes!), it is possible to feel part of a virtual community. I’m learning there is a tribe out there waiting for you, wherever you are on your sober journey. It turns out there are plenty of virtual choices out there. The key is the right tribe.
A good start: Club Soda posted a useful article and webinar about getting the most out of joining an online community.
This is not a complete list!
- Club soda – The Facebook Club Soda Together group starts at a main group, and there are various smaller special interest versions.
- Naked mind – Dwight pointed out Naked Mind’s discussion board to me — she has a Facebook Group Be Sober – Quit Drinking & Enjoy Life, and a Facebook Group This Naked Mind Group too. (If you want some in-person tribe love, they’re running an event in Denver, CO this September.)
- Soberistas – I mentioned this one previously. Fifty-six thousand members – gotta be some tribes in there! (fee – 7 day free trial.)
- One Year No Beer – Fee-based full-support site, which includes an online community, plus daily emails, video support and advice.
- Reddit/stopdrinking – (free) This forum gets excellent reviews in a Washington Post story: “A majority of the 31,339 subscribers call it their most helpful tool in their fight against alcohol, more so even than counseling, rehab, or more formal peer-recovery groups.”
Music? Of course! And it’s got to be Barbra!