Forgiveness …

Day 417.

“Forgiveness is letting go of the hope that the past could have been different.”
— Jerry Jampolosky

This was quoted to me yesterday. It delivered a huge personal aha! moment for me. So powerful a thought.

Forgiving around this last relationship has been difficult. I read about the value of forgiving someone — not doing it for the other person, but for yourself. It is to give you closure so you can move on. I tried that path; but I knew and felt there was something bigger I needed to find closure around. Something that would allow me to fully shut the door on it once and for all.

And there it was delivered to me yesterday in that quote. I have to accept and make peace with the end of hope the past could have been different.  Oh how I wished it could have been different. And now I forgive that it didn’t have a different outcome.

       —- The Heart of the Matter—-
“There are people in your life who’ve come and gone
They let you down and hurt your pride
Better put it all behind you; life goes on
You keep carryin’ that anger, it’ll eat you inside
I’ve been tryin’ to get down to the heart of the matter
But my will gets weak
And my thoughts seem to scatter
But I think it’s about forgiveness”


3 thoughts on “Forgiveness …

  1. The concept of forgiveness never made sense to me either. The traditional protestant one, no way. But even the more “enlightened” ones, they always felt pie-in-the-sky. And I refuse to negate my feelings. But we each have to find our way in, because forgiveness (ug, it needs a different name because of the stain of its old worn out repressed feelings history) is key. Glad you found your way in.

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    1. I know what you mean, exactly what you mean. Forgiveness is a struggle for me too… I find a way in for myself, that doesn’t feel like a cop out … if you know what I mean 🙂 It allows me to move on fully , and leave the energy suck behind.


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