“Forgiveness is letting go of the hope that the past could have been different.”
— Jerry Jampolosky
This was quoted to me yesterday. It delivered a huge personal aha! moment for me. So powerful a thought.
Forgiving around this last relationship has been difficult. I read about the value of forgiving someone — not doing it for the other person, but for yourself. It is to give you closure so you can move on. I tried that path; but I knew and felt there was something bigger I needed to find closure around. Something that would allow me to fully shut the door on it once and for all.
And there it was delivered to me yesterday in that quote. I have to accept and make peace with the end of hope the past could have been different. Oh how I wished it could have been different. And now I forgive that it didn’t have a different outcome.
They let you down and hurt your pride
Better put it all behind you; life goes on
You keep carryin’ that anger, it’ll eat you inside
But my will gets weak
And my thoughts seem to scatter
But I think it’s about forgiveness”